So you think she might be pregnant. If your girlfriend, friend, or wife took a positive pregnancy test or missed a period, here’s some quick advice that may be helpful to you right now.

The Do’s:

  1. Listen.
    The pregnancy situation involves more than just you. There are now three lives to think about.
  2. Stay calm.
    She needs your support as a boyfriend, friend, or husband now more than ever. She may be carrying the baby, but you are both parents. Regardless of your relationship in the future, your baby needs you just as much as it needs a mother.
  3. Talk about it.
    Talk not only with each other, but prepare to talk with other parents and those close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.
  4. Gather information.
    Get all the info and seek wise counsel so you can make the best decision for all three of you.
  5. Express yourself honestly.
    It is normal to have feelings of anger, frustration, and fear. But make sure she knows she is not alone.

The Don’ts:

  1. Don’t Bail.
    The more you run from your situation, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.
  2. Don’t pressure her.
    Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation. You will do well to work together as a team. Remember this pregnancy involves you too. You are a part of the decision-making process from now on.
  3. Don’t forget.
    You have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input as well as give your thoughts.

PCC helps to support dads by giving practical one-on-one support. PCC believes that fathers are a valuable part of each child’s life. PCC’s Fatherhood Program is designed to train and encourage dads as they earn material items for their child.